JeanA soul connection enters our lives, and the personal journey begins. Feelings of intense love, like nothing experienced before, a magnetic pull which draws us together and then suddenly, for what we deem to be no apparent reason, they are gone.
This once again evokes strong feelings, but this time they are feelings of disbelief, deep sorrow, pain, grief and longing. Longing for what we felt was the greatest love of all time, which all too soon slipped right through our fingers.
We try to understand what happened. What is this whole connection thing about? So we search for the answers. We look inside and don’t find much there, but emptiness. To think about them makes us long for them even more, so we try to block them out. Yet this tremendous yearning just won’t go away.
We are told this is due to the unresolved karma. We understand that the reason that they run is due to many different factors, a large part of which is fear, and unwillingness to embrace the connection. We cannot get our heads around this, how can anyone feel these kinds of feelings, say and share the things that they did with us in one moment, and so easily reject this in the next?
We reach an understanding that we are to have faith, that we have work to do, issues to address, and this subsequently allows us to achieve both personal and spiritual growth. The connection is destined, the relationship is not. In higher level connections, there has to be a re-connection to balance the karma.
Yet we can’t stop thinking about the relationship.
We struggle to find and maintain having faith, but what we are seeing is not matching. So we start to doubt it all. And start searching for more answers to counter the answers that we already have. The laws of these connections sound valid, we may even want to believe them to be true, but what if they are not?
We allow our logical mind to take over what we sense inside of us to be true, but then again, we doubt whether we can trust our own instincts, we trusted them right? and look what happened. So we allow the fear factor to blossom. We try to cling to faith, but fear that it’s fiction.
And so we question. How do we know these laws are real? They cannot possibly apply to everyone, surely one size doesn’t fit all. Everyone’s situation is different. How do we know if the partner will come back, that there will be a re-connection in my case? I’ve been told this, but how does one really know this for sure?
Maybe this whole soul connection thing is just some grand illusion, my personal delusion.
They didn’t care at all in the first place, so they left and aren’t ever coming back. Or at least this is the fear. The unstated and unrecognized emotion. We would never fear the connection, that’s what the one who ran is doing, and we are ready to embrace the connection, remember?
We find it difficult to understand why the partner ran off. But is it really that difficult, are we really that different than them at this point? They were not ready or able to embrace the connection. They have unresolved issues that need to be addressed, growth to be achieved, fears to be overcome. We now have our own issues to be addressed, brought to the forefront, growth to be achieved, and our own fears to be recognized and worked though. How’s that for mirroring each other?
The answer is faith. Finding that place of comfort. The evidence has revealed itself over time. People are coming together, sometimes after long lengths of time in these connection cases. I know that i have witnessed this. If one cannot or will not find faith that this will be the case, believe in the laws of soul connections, What does one believe? Well, let’s go there, play the devil’s advocate for a while.
Say this is all some big fantasy.There is no karma to be resolved, no reconnection, they are gone, end of story. We have been forced to feel the highest highs, and the lowest lows, duality. We have achieved personal and spiritual growth, gone on a personal and spiritual journey. Gotten in touch with our innermost self. Our worst character traits, emotions worked through.
We have learned self reliance, strength, courage. Learned how to validate ourselves, developed a greater sense of self, and understand that we are not to look to another for anything that we cannot find within ourselves. Having come into our own, comfortable in our own skin. We have come in to our own power, so whether or not the partner returns, and or another comes in, we will be the best that we can be to both offer and receive love in it’s purest form, and have a relationship that both fulfills and promotes growth for both parties involved.
A win-win situation no matter how you view it.
I think the underlying fear – at least in my case is that if I imagined all of this, if it was just me then what else is imaginary? A connection experience makes you realize that there is something bigger going on, that you do indeed have a soul and that there is a divine essence that can be felt. When it all goes pear shaped you wonder if any of it was real at all, and if this is indeed the case am I just a body with a mind, and emotions based on hormonal processes that are a carryover from millions of years ago and nothing more? Is life really just about being born, living for a while having kids and dying? This is my worst case scenario.
That is why I think, that we hope for a reconnection…