JeanI have been guided to move this article to the forefront, so here it is. It’s called “Back To The Basics”
A soul connection was brought into our lives to awaken us to the incredible power of the Universe. When the partner leaves, we are left feeling somewhat shattered and dazed by it all, so begin our quest for answers. If we go back to the basics, we can see how we already have these answers, and how straying from the cosmic laws how they apply in soul connections, loss of faith, and allowing the ego to live are the biggest mistakes that we can make. So lets do that, go back to the basics for a moment.
When we encounter a runner situation, we have many issues that are brought to the surface, perhaps we never realized that anything was amiss prior to this point. Well, here are our issues, up close and personal, where we can now see them and they can be addressed, worked through.
We understand that failure to embrace the connection, the intensity of it often times triggers a fear based reaction in the partner, so they run. We have karma to be resolved with this individual, and in higher level connections, a reconnection with the partner will occur to balance and resolve this karma. The connection is destined, the relationship is not, it is a part of free will. There will be a return of ones free will, as the Universe will ensure that balance is maintained, as in all things, balance.
So with that being said, we can begin to look at how straying away from this is where all the problems that we encounter stem from. Not having faith that there is something bigger than us at work here, that is guiding our lives, moving us in the direction along our destined path is what ultimately prevents us from finding that place of contentment, peace, personal and spiritual growth that we are
seeking.
I feel that a large part of the pain that we experience is that we want the relationship. We are hurt, angry, confused. We have taken a massive hit to our self esteem. We feel insecure, perhaps had no clue that they would run.The ego wants answers. From them. So we go after them. Big no no there, yet sure that we all have done it, yeah? When someone is acting (or not acting) out of fear mode, and one goes chasing them per se, calling, texting, attempting to make contact with them, what I refer to as trying to force a breakthrough, understand that one isn’t going to force anything when dealing with soul connections.
So what kind of a response do we expect? So glad to hear from you? More than likely its a leave me alone, quit calling me, actually if that’s the least of what we hear we should consider ourselves lucky. Anyone coming from this place doesn’t have the answers that we are looking for, the ones that we want to hear, and fear based answers are not a true indication, the real answers anyway. So how does this feel? Crawling back with ones tail between ones legs, ego bruised and battered just a little?
But can one see what is happening here? The issues that we have, the very ones that the connection came into our lives to address are what are driving us at this point. Fear, insecurity, low self esteem, control issues etc. all providing the fuel in this search for the answers. Whats the ego feel like when we find that they are with another partner? Oh, Lord out comes competition mode, someones on our turf. Bet we look really lovely to the partner at this point, don’t we. Desperate, clinging, insecure , telling them what’s on our mind, not sure we would want to be with us at this point, yeah? We psycho analyze it all to death when if we go back to the basics we already have the answers. We don’t need apologies, a synopsis of why they left, we know why, its all part of the process. Although the details in each ones connection situation is different, the laws that govern them remain constant, they do not change.
We must work to overcome these issues. Yet we find excuses to avoid doing so. I don’t have time, i don’t know how, etc. We become virtual victims of the experience, feel loss of control versus becoming an active participant. Abandoning oneself to it doesn’t mean that we become powerless. One would think that we would welcome the work, an opportunity to take back our power as we move along our paths. We are capable of managing our energies through various tools that are available, such a yoga, meditation. We see how methods such as Ptsen nuh have allowed for dramatic change in another’s life, yet we resist, remain hesitant in taking an active role in our own healing and growth. The tools are there, but it is up to us to utilize them. We choose to keep our energy on the partner, and attempt to block theirs. But as the saying goes, If you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. So get out of there. Coming from a place of power, we must concentrate on withdrawing our energy from them, not blocking theirs, a proactive role instead of a reactive one. I jokingly say to save the blocking for when one is watching Super Bowl Sunday.
If it is a connection situation in which a reconnection is necessary to balance the karma, the partner will reconnect with us at some point and one will have the opportunity to choose whether or not a relationship with the partner is desired. A return of ones free will. Yet often times we lose sight of this. Reconnection doesn’t mean an automatic relationship. We lose faith in the process, and doubt that there will be a return. Perhaps we don’t want a return, but if it is what is required to balance the karma, whether we want it or not is of no consequence, it will happen, it has to. What we may be experiencing here is that we don’t feel that there could be a relationship. Two different things.
We all have strayed from the beaten path at one point or another. We think that we know better. Yet it is beaten for a reason. Many have trodden this road before us, many will after us. The laws governing these connections weren’t invented yesterday, a figment of someones imagination. They have been there forever and a day to guide us as we journey on our path towards spiritual and personal growth and enlightenment. Abandoning oneself to the laws that guide us in these connections is our answer. The only one. When one finds themselves faltering, struggling for answers to find ones way, always go back to the basics, it will never fail you.
Jean, your site looks great – I really like the colors you’ve changed to. I’m glad you moved this article up to the front again. Going back to the basics is so important for those going through a Soul connection! You have summed up the crazy behavior we go through when the partner runs, along with how we would rather hold onto the pain than use the tools and move through it. Using the tools is so important to help take our energy back and gain our footing again. Once we can do that, we can start to learn the lessons, thus resolving the karma and begin balancing the energy again so we can eventually move into joy and peace with the new lessons learned, acceptance and forgiveness.