JeanWhen one continues to focus on the relationship aspect of the soul connection experience, one will become aware of , privy to many things of which one would rather not know for sure. Yet we continue to do it, don’t we. We want answers and every action or lack there of that the soul connection partner makes is held to our own private scrutiny isn’t it. One will have their own scale of measurement if you will, the likelihood that they are getting ready to return based off of what we see or don’t see, the things that the partner does or doesn’t do applied to this personal level of probability which we have established in our minds. We cling to the details in a hope that something will show us that, yes, this is real. So we hang on every word, email, text, every glance or look that they exhibit our way or perhaps not even our way, looking for a sign, a clue that will lend us to believe that yes, they are still in this with us and things will work out the way that we want that they should, the way that we desire them to, them back with us in a relationship. Yet with this we often times will find ourselves reaching don’t we, the simplest blink is held to investigation, someone give us something please, unveil the hidden meaning, show us that we are making headway with this partner and that they are working their way back to us.
So, we search our minds, our dreams, look for and perhaps see things that we take as signs that this is exactly what is happening. Progress is being made, we are on the right track, that things are in line with the way that we desire them to be. If there isn’t a sign per se we will make one by golly, we will find a synch and run with it. There has to be something to it, the Universe surely wouldn’t leave us to flounder without giving us something to hold onto would it? So we attach everything and anything that we can to apply towards the soul connection experience, we do not have a clue, but I bet we can find one now can’t we. And so we keep looking, looking at the details to figure it all out, give us something to hold on to to make this all real to us We may just find a thing or two that affords us the reassurance, reinforces the idea that yes, they are moving in our direction, our hope has not vanished into thin air, things are happening that render us capable of hanging in there, seeing it through till they return.
Quite a bit of expectation that we hold, yeah? Yet often times we will find more disappointment than anything, when the moves that they make are baby steps, what we thought was evidence of progress on their part turns out to be words with no action that follows. They call, write, but what they say falls flat, its idle chit chat or they make promises that they do not keep, sure that many of us have experienced what I speak of here, yeah? There are going to be times when one sees, hears of, bears witness to in one way or another knowledge of the partners life details that will cause tremendous pain, the signs that we look for are blatant realities of exactly the opposite of what we are searching for, or so we think, and we are thrown into a terrible tailspin over what I call the ” doozy details” Some of the examples of this are learning that 1) They have left their marriage or partner and are now with someone else, and that someone else is not you. 2) They have left their partner and are alone, have been perhaps for awhile and still are not moving in your direction 3) They have gotten married while separated from us 4) He or she has had a child with someone else 5) They have moved far away from where we are, now there is physical distance thrown into the mix. These are some of the things that one may encounter during the soul connection experience. Sure that we didn’t bargain for any of these ” biggies” Somehow we think that they leave due to fear, ok, we can understand this, but we didn’t bargain for these monkey wrenches did we. When these events occur it can and will be devastating news to the one left behind.
There is going to be twists and turns that one will encounter when going through the soul connection experience for sure. Everything doesn’t necessarily go in a straight line where the two are separated, they work out their issues in the interim and then return to us. No one likes to think of the one that they love and would like to have a relationship with as being with someone else. Somehow we would rather that they never loved anyone else ever, huh. That we are the one, the only one that they have ever been with or will be with, but we are realistic and know that this isn’t the case. But this is a bit much, and our minds can and will go all over the place, and we beat ourselves up with these details. Yet no matter how insurmountable they may seem at the time, they are just that, details. Often times one will use these details, allow them to overcome and overwhelm themselves. And to put a stamp of approval on our own low self esteem, self worth, insecurities of which these events are excellent triggers, yeah? The mind sees a marriage as the hugest obstacle possible, the birth of a child as 18-21 years before the partner will leave now, an investment or reinvestment in a relationship with someone else, not us.
Important to know that the connection doesn’t die in light of the fact that we feel that it has when we hear of these major life events, that do not include us, occurring in the life of the soul connection partner. They are not going to be there to assist you through this pain are they? These are life altering events, big life changes for the partner, and overwhelming ones for us. Yet they are life altering for us as well aren’t they? One must come to a place where they let go of this waiting game, and utilize this pain, allow it to work for you not against and destroy you. One cannot become caught up in the mix and stay stuck here. How much pain and heartache is it going to take for one to withdraw themselves from the waiting and wondering and worrying about what the partner is doing is it going to take before one gets out of there? this is an individual thing as some will pride themselves on the ability to endure these challenges, take the hit so to speak, take a licking and keep on ticking with the eye on the goal. But what is happening here with these doozy details, they can seem like whoppers cant they? It is a big push to drive one away from the external and back into oneself where our work lies.
We have a tendency to think that we move from point A to point B with a nice clean line between the two, but it isn’t really this way is it. There can be many twists and turns, a virtual maze of individual choices, free will that seem to interfere with this straight shot that we have envisioned for our lives. What appears to be as misdirection is really offering us direction, back to where we are meant to be, taking care of our own issues, our own lives. The doozy details are necessary in many ways when one continues to pursue outside of oneself, ignoring the purpose of the connection, the process that the soul connection entails, the work that one must do to progress along their path. These monkey wrenches afford us the ultimate push, to let go of the details and begin the work once and for all. Balance will be maintained, the Universe will ensure this, and when we become so far out of balance the biggie details are exactly what is required to reel us back in, knock us down and nearly out so that we will let go and come back to ourselves and our own journey so that we progress and come to an understanding of the true purpose of the connection and work through it. Its not the end , but for many the beginning, just taking us on a detour away from the scenic route, for what we have seen is but a painful distraction from our work in this lifetime, our spiritual progression of which the soul connection experience is an integral part.
The connection is not broken despite the appearance of what one may perceive to be as obstacles along the path. Use these details to break free of the relationship aspect of the connection, do the work on oneself that must be done. The soul connection experience is a process. Come back into yourself to work your way through this process. The doozy details can really render you feeling helpless and hopeless, yeah? But if they are what it takes to return you to yourself where you do have a say, the power to affect change and that is within yourself, than they are very effective tools in this respect. We can work through our own issues, learn the lessons that the process is given to us to show us and release. This is our part of the soul connection experience and that is the part where our energy and focus must remain, its where our power and ultimately where our peace lies as well. We live in the here and now, and now is where we find ourselves, yeah? Best we get started now then.
You know we talk about the partner who has run, and wonder whether or not they are doing their work, and will they have worked through their issues when they return, all these questions that we have regarding the runner. But the real question that one must ask themselves is, have I worked through my issues? Have I learned the lessons which I have been tasked to learn from this experience? Am I ready?
