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A soul connection was brought into our lives to awaken us to the incredible power of the Universe. When the partner leaves, we are left feeling somewhat shattered and dazed by it all, so begin our quest for answers. If we go back to the basics, we can see how we already have these answers, and how straying from the cosmic laws how they apply in soul connections, loss of faith, and allowing the ego to live are the biggest mistakes that we can make. So lets do that, go back to the basics for a moment.

When we encounter a runner situation, we have many issues that are brought to the surface, perhaps we never realized that anything was amiss prior to this point. Well, here are our issues, up close and personal, where we can now see them and they can be addressed, worked through.

We understand that failure to embrace the connection, the intensity of it often times triggers a fear based reaction in the partner, so they run. We have karma to be resolved with this individual, and in higher level connections, a reconnection with the partner will occur to balance and resolve this karma. The connection is destined, the relationship is not, it is a part of free will. There will be a return of ones free will, as the Universe will ensure that balance is maintained, as in all things, balance.

So with that being said, we can begin to look at how straying away from this is where all the problems that we encounter stem from. Not having faith that there is something bigger than us at work here, that is guiding our lives, moving us in the direction along our destined path is what ultimately prevents us from finding that place of contentment, peace, personal and spiritual growth that we are
seeking.

I feel that a large part of the pain that we experience is that we want the relationship. We are hurt, angry, confused. We have taken a massive hit to our self esteem. We feel insecure, perhaps had no clue that they would run.The ego wants answers. From them. So we go after them. Big no no there, yet sure that we all have done it, yeah? When someone is acting (or not acting) out of fear mode, and one goes chasing them per se, calling, texting, attempting to make contact with them, what I refer to as trying to force a breakthrough, understand that one isn’t going to force anything when dealing with soul connections.

So what kind of a response do we expect? So glad to hear from you? More than likely its a leave me alone, quit calling me, actually if that’s the least of what we hear we should consider ourselves lucky. Anyone coming from this place doesn’t have the answers that we are looking for, the ones that we want to hear, and fear based answers are not a true indication, the real answers anyway. So how does this feel? Crawling back with ones tail between ones legs, ego bruised and battered just a little?

But can one see what is happening here? The issues that we have, the very ones that the connection came into our lives to address are what are driving us at this point. Fear, insecurity, low self esteem, control issues etc. all providing the fuel in this search for the answers. Whats the ego feel like when we find that they are with another partner? Oh, Lord out comes competition mode, someones on our turf. Bet we look really lovely to the partner at this point, don’t we. Desperate, clinging, insecure , telling them what’s on our mind, not sure we would want to be with us at this point, yeah? We psycho analyze it all to death when if we go back to the basics we already have the answers. We don’t need apologies, a synopsis of why they left, we know why, its all part of the process. Although the details in each ones connection situation is different, the laws that govern them remain constant, they do not change.

We must work to overcome these issues. Yet we find excuses to avoid doing so. I don’t have time, i don’t know how, etc. We become virtual victims of the experience, feel loss of control versus becoming an active participant. Abandoning oneself to it doesn’t mean that we become powerless. One would think that we would welcome the work, an opportunity to take back our power as we move along our paths. We are capable of managing our energies through various tools that are available, such a yoga, meditation. We see how methods such as Ptsen nuh have allowed for dramatic change in another’s life, yet we resist, remain hesitant in taking an active role in our own healing and growth. The tools are there, but it is up to us to utilize them. We choose to keep our energy on the partner, and attempt to block theirs. But as the saying goes, If you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. So get out of there. Coming from a place of power, we must concentrate on withdrawing our energy from them, not blocking theirs, a proactive role instead of a reactive one. I jokingly say to save the blocking for when one is watching Super Bowl Sunday.

If it is a connection situation in which a reconnection is necessary to balance the karma, the partner will reconnect with us at some point and one will have the opportunity to choose whether or not a relationship with the partner is desired. A return of ones free will. Yet often times we lose sight of this. Reconnection doesn’t mean an automatic relationship. We lose faith in the process, and doubt that there will be a return. Perhaps we don’t want a return, but if it is what is required to balance the karma, whether we want it or not is of no consequence, it will happen, it has to. What we may be experiencing here is that we don’t feel that there could be a relationship. Two different things.

We all have strayed from the beaten path at one point or another. We think that we know better. Yet it is beaten for a reason. Many have trodden this road before us, many will after us. The laws governing these connections weren’t invented yesterday, a figment of someones imagination. They have been there forever and a day to guide us as we journey on our path towards spiritual and personal growth and enlightenment. Abandoning oneself to the laws that guide us in these connections is our answer. The only one. When one finds themselves faltering, struggling for answers to find ones way, always go back to the basics, it will never fail you.

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One of the reasons for this is what i refer to as reassurance rewind. One wants something to hold onto, so will attempt to imprint the memory of the reading that one has received , to hold the positive aspects for awhile longer, convince oneself that one is not crazy deluding oneself by attempting to force thought to do the job for us. It felt good to hear that ones partner will return, that the love remains despite their absence, actions or lack there of that lend one to lean toward the negative. A natural response for one to feel that everything is bleak, all signs are pointing in this direction. This applies not only in soul connection cases, but in all areas of ones life. Readings are temporary, the encouragement, support, guidance received, happiness, all of the positive components that one has derived, taken away from a session with have a tendency to fleet, don’t they. One will lose that feel good ” I can do this” aspect as the thought is taken over once again, replaced by doubt, fear, and lack of movement on ones part.

So we rewind it, bring the thought back to the forefront to recapture this sense of positivity, to convince ourselves once again that we are on the right track. Yet after awhile, the mental tape wears out, memories, recollection fades and we are rendered less capable of doing just that. So we pick up the phone and the credit card and ” reach out and touch someone” once again, obtain another reading to reestablish this sense of security, a pick me up to regain the reassurance that we were unable to hold onto from the last one, and the last one and round and round we go.

One may share with a friend the details of ones session, once again this is another way of garnering a sense of reassurance and it freshens the thoughts just a bit, doesn’t it. Bouncing the details off of another is a way that one may attempt to alleviate ones doubts, fears and fortify, pacify our minds that yes, this is good, no need to doubt it, we rewind our mental tape and search for reassurance once again in this manner. Many will find that if another finds flaws in, adds a negative twist to what we share we will raise our defenses to protect the sense of positivity that we have attained, as the tendency to move toward the negative has been ingrained in us for so long that we will fight to defend our mental state of feeling good about things as we feel ourselves starting to be overcome by our doubts and fears, and we don’t like it, do we. This is going against the grain of the positive mental outlook which one has rewound, replayed over and over to convince oneself of, so when one slides back into the negativity triggered by another person’s doubts, questions, concerns or beliefs one may just have to order up a fresh tape, another reading to try and bolster, strengthen the mind into positive thought once again.

This is why one finds themselves going through the reading rodeo, get on a good horse, get bucked off another so the only way to sustain oneself is via repetition, repeated positive information, from multiple sources even better, yeah? If he said it, and she said, and so did this one, well just by the law of averages it has to be true, we accept it and are positive once again. What is lacking here is the forward motion, the body in motion, not just the mind. We think it all to death with the head, yet the energetic body remains motionless. What has one done with the knowledge that one has attained, the guidance and direction that one has been given? Allowed it to fall idle on the mind, where it will twist and turn and fall flat. Think about this for a moment. All great products, inventions, were born out of necessity and thought. Yet without that forward motion, the thought taken to action, none of the things that we use, rely on in our lives would have ever actualized, would be lost on the one who held the idea or thought if never put forth into physical form.

Important to bring ones energy outward. Sure that one knows of or perhaps has done this oneself. Attained a wealth of knowledge, via readings regarding ones life path, perhaps having studied the esoteric arts, have a wealth of ability, creative positive energy, yet where is it? Lost on the head instead of being extended outward as a positive energy and direction guiding not only oneself but others as well. Most of us have gone the reassurance route, yet one cannot and will not stay there forever, its part of human nature to want a guarantee, test the waters before we jump in. Life involves risk. Finding peace and happiness in ones life involves risk as well. One didn’t have a guarantee that the sun would come up this morning, but we didn’t lay awake at night, we took the risk and closed our eyes and fell asleep, yeah? without worrying about it or giving it a second thought. Give yourself that much if you must for a time, its par for the course if you will, part of the process. Then take the encouragement and support that you have found and allow the knowledge that one has acquired to propel you forward, not constant thinking of how it’s all going to go down, but constant living as it does.

When one allows these feelings to pervade each waking moment, each hour that passes, day after day, one will find themselves feeling overtaken, overpowered, outnumbered,alone and afraid. For many, this results in an attempt to quiet these feelings, find ways to stifle the pain, the depth of what one is feeling. Confusion abounds, so one will seek answers to find a way to bring it all home, to satisfy, pacify these thoughts and feelings, settle the dust so to speak, gain a sense of control when everything seems to be out of control.

During this quest for answers, mental constructs, opinions are formulated as to what this whole scenario is about, what it means to one and ones relationship with the partner in question. Isn’t this what leads most of us to seek out guidance in the first place? We want to know what in the heck is going on here, why am I so attracted to this person? Why cant I just walk away, I have in the past when relationships have ended, sure it hurt but i got over it, but this time, I cant walk away even if I tried. And try we do. How many times has one gotten angry over events that have transpired, or often times not transpired, in relation to the soul connection partner, and we say that we have had enough of this mess and are done? Till we aren’t done, yeah?

An explanation of the karmic aspects of the soul connection experience, the lessons that we are to learn from it can feel as if we have the answers. Finally at last there is a method to the madness, it makes sense, we aren’t alone, others have experienced or are experiencing the same feelings in one shape or form or another, so we compare our stories, cases to others which causes us to settle down per se, at least for a time. We have an understanding of what is occurring and why. Or so one may think, then the doubts, questioning start again, as time places distance between the comfort obtained via a mental understanding of the process, and what one is experiencing in the physical in relation to the soul connection partner. One has had the time to do the mental gymnastics, process the information that one has acquired from often times numerous sources, and decided what seems to fit, what works for our mind. We have done what i refer to as “taking it to head”. Yet for many of us, we have more than likely taken it straight to the heart as well, big time.

So, we talk about having issues to address, work through and beyond, that its not just about the relationship, yet our heads and our hearts need it to be, yeah? This is a difficult aspect of the soul connection experience, perhaps the biggest hurdle for many. We want it to be about the relationship, we need it to be about the relationship, it was or still is a relationship, just one that isn’t flying right at the moment, but will. So of course one will feel the most comfort, settle down their emotions in the way that makes sense to them by clinging to, forming an attachment to the romanticized ideals that one has come to know in regards to soul connections.

Doesn’t everyone want to think that the pain that they are experiencing is due to the fact that the partner and the love, the emotions that one feels in regards to them is ones twin soul? This label attributes the greatest level of comfort and understanding to all of the confusion and pain that one is feeling. Big connection, big feelings makes sense to the head and the heart.
Easy to see how one will resist, reject any attempt to pull one away from the romantic toward the energetic, working on ones issues to heal will be discarded as virtual heresy. The level of comfort that one has established for oneself is shaken and rattled by universal law as applied to soul connections. Well, if men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, then universal law still applies, yeah?

Yet the soul connection experience is brought into ones life to trigger and catapult one into change. And the human experience is resistant to change, its foreign territory. What we have come to know in our lives may not seem to be the greatest, trials, tribulations, etc, but its what we have come to know, its familiar, whereas the future remains to be seen, and this is where our vulnerability lies. And so we sit, filled with emotion and lacking motion, forward movement.

Ironically we resist change, yet when things are not working for us in our lives, we want nothing more than for things to change. We enjoy the fact of having free will, the power of choice, yet free will can seem to be the biggest stumbling block for one at the moment, yeah? One feels out of control, yet refuses to exercise control over the aspects of their lives where one does have a say, things that are mutable are left to chance. This is the area where it is important to exercise ones ability to affect change. To take all this emotion and put it into motion, allowing the pain and heartache to work for us, not against us. Intent moves energy, all the pain and heartache can apply some serious intent to move us through and beyond the soul connection experience, get us moving along our paths, healing body mind and spirit. Putting emotion into motion will move one toward a place of profound healing, finally finding the peace and contentment which one has been seeking all along.

For many of us the answer would be no, we don’t have the opportunity to choose whether or not the other party involved in our soul connection experience runs completely or bounces in and out of our lives like a basketball, leaving us a basket case. But yes, we do have the ability to choose this. What this whole scenario does is allow disruption in our boundaries. I have experienced this aspect of the soul connection experience myself and it isn’t pretty is it. What is happening here is in the lesson, an important one that is not specific to the soul connection partner, but is seen quite often in soul connection cases. It carries over into all areas of ones life, an important issue, lesson for oneself, that if you are experiencing this, to identify, acknowledge and begin to work on and through this lesson of having poor to virtually non existent boundaries.

“I love you, no I don’t, never have.” “I care for you , I hate you, kiss mine”. “Call me, don’t call me” I’ll call you Thursday”, its 2 months later and after no contact comes the “Hi, how have you been? what have you been up to, haven’t heard from you.” Little wonder one is left feeling like ” What the?” Make up your bloody mind already for crying out loud. And one feels nutty as all get out cause if we weren’t confused before, well we sure the heck are now, aren’t we? And just a bit dizzy from running in circles with this stuff, emotionally, mentally and often times physically as well.

So how long is this going to continue? This push pull stuff can be nothing short of crazy making , on their part and on ours. Their confusion, mixed emotions flying all over the place, and onto us and landing dead center. Talk about imbalance of energies, if we have any energy left at all to deal with this as it is exhausting for sure ” How do I know where I stand?” one will often ask. Well, we don’t stand anywhere at this point really as it keeps knocking you onto your back side. For many this is a big time frame question. When are they going to stop this on again off again stuff? The answer to this once again lies within us. I know this gets old for many to hear, but this behavior continues as long as we allow it to. Now that is a time frame and a half, yeah?

This may be difficult for one to accept, hard to hear perhaps. Yet the push pull is a boundary lesson. For us. I have experienced this myself, spoken to many people who have or currently are experiencing this, and it will continue for as long as one is willing to allow it to. For some this has been an awfully long time, years in fact. Way longer than it needed to in order to learn the lesson that was being presented to them. Yet the key here is in the identification of what the lesson is. Its not to suck it up and endure a boat load of nonsensical behavior. The idea that this is strength is where our weakness lies. If we don’t see it, aren’t shown or taught this, little wonder that one will feel that the pain that this causes is all part of the master plan, yeah? One loses the lesson to the pain and the confusion in this way, where as the lesson really stems from within ourselves, they are just using a highlighter to underline it for us.

Aha, so that’s what this is all about. Once one can see and come to an understanding of what is occurring here, the next step is to begin to work on establishing boundaries which are healthy. Learn what is being shown to you. This isn’t something that is meant to drive us insane, we permit this due to a lack of understanding of what is going on for the most part. They throw us a crumb and any sense of stability goes right out the window, doesn’t it. Fear that they will go away completely and never come back is one reason. That they will ” take it and therefore us, the wrong way.” etc etc. So one will find themselves jumping through hoops instead of establishing the guidelines that they and everyone else are to follow. We draw the line of where people walk, whether that is towards or away from us, along side and with us, or all over us, is up to us.

So, we search our minds, our dreams, look for and perhaps see things that we take as signs that this is exactly what is happening. Progress is being made, we are on the right track, that things are in line with the way that we desire them to be. If there isn’t a sign per se we will make one by golly, we will find a synch and run with it. There has to be something to it, the Universe surely wouldn’t leave us to flounder without giving us something to hold onto would it? So we attach everything and anything that we can to apply towards the soul connection experience, we do not have a clue, but I bet we can find one now can’t we. And so we keep looking, looking at the details to figure it all out, give us something to hold on to to make this all real to us We may just find a thing or two that affords us the reassurance, reinforces the idea that yes, they are moving in our direction, our hope has not vanished into thin air, things are happening that render us capable of hanging in there, seeing it through till they return.

Quite a bit of expectation that we hold, yeah? Yet often times we will find more disappointment than anything, when the moves that they make are baby steps, what we thought was evidence of progress on their part turns out to be words with no action that follows. They call, write, but what they say falls flat, its idle chit chat or they make promises that they do not keep, sure that many of us have experienced what I speak of here, yeah? There are going to be times when one sees, hears of, bears witness to in one way or another knowledge of the partners life details that will cause tremendous pain, the signs that we look for are blatant realities of exactly the opposite of what we are searching for, or so we think, and we are thrown into a terrible tailspin over what I call the ” doozy details” Some of the examples of this are learning that 1) They have left their marriage or partner and are now with someone else, and that someone else is not you. 2) They have left their partner and are alone, have been perhaps for awhile and still are not moving in your direction 3) They have gotten married while separated from us 4) He or she has had a child with someone else 5) They have moved far away from where we are, now there is physical distance thrown into the mix. These are some of the things that one may encounter during the soul connection experience. Sure that we didn’t bargain for any of these ” biggies” Somehow we think that they leave due to fear, ok, we can understand this, but we didn’t bargain for these monkey wrenches did we. When these events occur it can and will be devastating news to the one left behind.

There is going to be twists and turns that one will encounter when going through the soul connection experience for sure. Everything doesn’t necessarily go in a straight line where the two are separated, they work out their issues in the interim and then return to us. No one likes to think of the one that they love and would like to have a relationship with as being with someone else. Somehow we would rather that they never loved anyone else ever, huh. That we are the one, the only one that they have ever been with or will be with, but we are realistic and know that this isn’t the case. But this is a bit much, and our minds can and will go all over the place, and we beat ourselves up with these details. Yet no matter how insurmountable they may seem at the time, they are just that, details. Often times one will use these details, allow them to overcome and overwhelm themselves. And to put a stamp of approval on our own low self esteem, self worth, insecurities of which these events are excellent triggers, yeah? The mind sees a marriage as the hugest obstacle possible, the birth of a child as 18-21 years before the partner will leave now, an investment or reinvestment in a relationship with someone else, not us.

Important to know that the connection doesn’t die in light of the fact that we feel that it has when we hear of these major life events, that do not include us, occurring in the life of the soul connection partner. They are not going to be there to assist you through this pain are they? These are life altering events, big life changes for the partner, and overwhelming ones for us. Yet they are life altering for us as well aren’t they? One must come to a place where they let go of this waiting game, and utilize this pain, allow it to work for you not against and destroy you. One cannot become caught up in the mix and stay stuck here. How much pain and heartache is it going to take for one to withdraw themselves from the waiting and wondering and worrying about what the partner is doing is it going to take before one gets out of there? this is an individual thing as some will pride themselves on the ability to endure these challenges, take the hit so to speak, take a licking and keep on ticking with the eye on the goal. But what is happening here with these doozy details, they can seem like whoppers cant they? It is a big push to drive one away from the external and back into oneself where our work lies.

We have a tendency to think that we move from point A to point B with a nice clean line between the two, but it isn’t really this way is it. There can be many twists and turns, a virtual maze of individual choices, free will that seem to interfere with this straight shot that we have envisioned for our lives. What appears to be as misdirection is really offering us direction, back to where we are meant to be, taking care of our own issues, our own lives. The doozy details are necessary in many ways when one continues to pursue outside of oneself, ignoring the purpose of the connection, the process that the soul connection entails, the work that one must do to progress along their path. These monkey wrenches afford us the ultimate push, to let go of the details and begin the work once and for all. Balance will be maintained, the Universe will ensure this, and when we become so far out of balance the biggie details are exactly what is required to reel us back in, knock us down and nearly out so that we will let go and come back to ourselves and our own journey so that we progress and come to an understanding of the true purpose of the connection and work through it. Its not the end , but for many the beginning, just taking us on a detour away from the scenic route, for what we have seen is but a painful distraction from our work in this lifetime, our spiritual progression of which the soul connection experience is an integral part.

The connection is not broken despite the appearance of what one may perceive to be as obstacles along the path. Use these details to break free of the relationship aspect of the connection, do the work on oneself that must be done. The soul connection experience is a process. Come back into yourself to work your way through this process. The doozy details can really render you feeling helpless and hopeless, yeah? But if they are what it takes to return you to yourself where you do have a say, the power to affect change and that is within yourself, than they are very effective tools in this respect. We can work through our own issues, learn the lessons that the process is given to us to show us and release. This is our part of the soul connection experience and that is the part where our energy and focus must remain, its where our power and ultimately where our peace lies as well. We live in the here and now, and now is where we find ourselves, yeah? Best we get started now then.

You know we talk about the partner who has run, and wonder whether or not they are doing their work, and will they have worked through their issues when they return, all these questions that we have regarding the runner. But the real question that one must ask themselves is, have I worked through my issues? Have I learned the lessons which I have been tasked to learn from this experience? Am I ready?

A question that I have been asked quite often, and sure that many have asked in their mind as well. Kind of a two pronged question, because the one that follows is why do we not hear about it if it isn’t? People want to hear that the partners come together, but really want to know that they are together in a relationship more so than the fact that they have reconnected. I understand this as it is true, there aren’t many postings out there from those who have reconnected with their soul connection partner is there. So lets take a look at this for a moment.

So what does reconnection mean? To connect again. Many take this to automatically mean that the partners are together in a relationship, that they are ” picking up where they left off” per se. Yet reconnection simply means that the one who has been absent, not willing, ready or able to walk the walk returns. This can be via a phone call, visit, email or text or what have you, they make contact again. This is a turning point per se in the respect that now that they are back, a relationship is once again a possibility. Can’t have a relationship with someone who isn’t in contact with you or even around, possibly not even knowing where they are, yeah? Important to see that reconnection is just what the word means, to connect again, it doesn’t mean “automatic re-relationship”, although this is a choice for the partners at this point, to exercise their free will. No, reconnection is not rare, it happens quite often, part of the process of resolution of karma and balancing of energies.

Now the other part of the question is why don’t we hear about it, where are the ones who have gone on and are in a relationship once again. It does make it look as if it never happens, doesn’t it. You don’t hear about it, or the only ones for the most part are either doing their work and speaking about releasing their pain, have experienced reconnection but are not with the partner, or the ones who are in a relationship with their soul connection partner and speak of it are so few and far between that it makes one wonder whether it is all a bunch of baloney or that it is so rare that its hard to relate to what is being said by myself or others who speak to it, yeah? I feel ya on this one.

There are several reasons for this that I can share that may bring you some clarity here. You know how I mentioned about being caught in the pain loop when participating in a forum setting? Well its similar when it comes to this topic as well. Those who are in pain like to share it, speak to it, and these are ones who are separated from their soul connection partner. One can relate to this aspect, and feel that they are not alone because others are experiencing the same feelings, thoughts, etc. We hear from them , they are in the part of the process where perhaps we find ourselves, reading about it, looking for answers and the like. And we know how we like to talk about it, it seems to help us when we are able to express this, get it out where someone can relate to it, people in the same boat read it and understand. You know how many people like to hear this stuff, yeah? No one wants to listen but people going through it sure will, and do.

People who are working or have worked through their pain and have not reconnected with their partner as of yet recognize another’s pain, have found their way out, and are willing to share this so that another may find their way through and beyond the pain as well. We should be grateful that there are ones who are willing to do this, they are sending us a lifeline per se, showing us that peace can be found within the experience, as we know that this may not seem possible from where we sit at the moment. Working through our issues, learning the lessons that we are being shown is an integral part of the soul connection experience and working our way through it. To hear that others are doing their work lends support to us as we struggle to find our way and begin to do ours. You are not alone in your pain, or in working through your issues, as others are doing this as well and share that with us.

The ones who have reconnected and are in relationship with the soul connection partner have moved on in their lives and often times one will not hear from them once this occurs. We may hear from them once in awhile, but for the most part one will not. There is no pain anymore for one reason, and they do not engage in conversation regarding it. They are not on the soul connection wagon as I call it, they continue on with their lives and do not look back. They are now outside of the loop and do not step back into it. The best that I can offer one is to be glad that there are ones who are willing to give us a glimpse into the soul connection experience from whatever part of the process that they find themselves in. This is an important lesson, the interconnectedness of people. One which many people struggle with. Oh goodness there she is talking about that interconnectedness thing again, yeah? When something is “over with” if you will, to come back and share to help another who stands much to gain from hearing what you have to say is important. I myself have chosen to step back into the experience to share what I have learned and observed over time.

I jokingly will say that if I were to tell you all about my reconnections, had I chosen to proceed with a relationship you may just be reading your first article about the soul connection reconnection with ensuing relationship which ended in divorce, what a downer that would be, yeah ? lol Yet I was given the opportunity to make my choice, the one that is right for me and I did just that. It can be a tenuous thing, people want to hear about the people coming together and I can understand this, but heres the problem with this. Many will focus on the relationship aspect alone, and not work through their issues and move forward to a place where this is even possible.

Just think, this site and the articles were born out of my connection experiences and what I have learned and observed over time in my own life and the lives of many others. There is no pain, I can step in and step out of the experience with ease, yet without the understanding of interconnectedness of all people, you wouldn’t be reading this or any articles for that matter from me, because I would have moved on as well and wouldn’t be here to share with you. I am glad that I learned this well. Do I take this seriously? Most definitely. Each person reading or conversing on the other end of the line or the computer is not but a user name or a voice, but someone with a pulse and a soul, seeking knowledge and understanding. Your life is serious business. My goal is to provide you with food for the soul, sunlight on your face, not sunshine blown up the other end. We have all had enough of that for several lifetimes I am sure.

Is reconnection rare? Not at all, happens all the time. Its the understanding of what reconnection means and the lack of the many who have experienced this who speak of and to it, who pay it forward, that renders it to appear this way, that’s all.

When one is attempting to convey a message to another, and it becomes apparent that the recipient is not understanding what one is trying to tell them, does one stick to the same procedure and plan? or do you come after it with a differing approach, pull another tool out of the tool box per se, say it or show them in a different way that perhaps they can better understand, see or hear what you are telling them more clearly. Not as important how we get it across, just that we do. Sometimes one method of delivery works well for one person and is not the way to approach another, so if we remain flexible, have different methods and ways that we use to convey our feelings, thoughts or a concept, whatever the case may be, we can ensure that the one who we are interacting with is afforded the best possible chance to come to an understanding of exactly what it is that we are trying to teach or show them, we individualize it to accommodate each person this way.

Perhaps at times we have all had to deliver news, say things that may not leave us as the bearer of glad tidings,things that people may not like or want to hear or are in line with the individuals personal opinion. But they need to hear it. Ever have to tell a friend that they are acting way out of line, see that someone is heading for disaster in one way or another and know full well that you are going to have your head taken off because of it, but out of love and respect for the person do it anyway? Someone is hurting and wants us to tell them something that will make them feel better, yet perhaps what we have to tell will not, so we go along with it and say things, try to find ways that will make the person feel better. In the long run that is actually doing the person an injustice. Ever have someone tell you that ” you aren’t telling me anything that i don’t already know, or “Tell me something new?” Maybe just what the doctor ordered, them to hear it again, yeah? New doesn’t necessarily mean different or better. If one goes around tooting their own horn, speaking to things of which they have no knowledge, it will catch up with them in the end, always best to speak to that of which one knows and if you don’t know, say so, there is no harm in admitting that one has no knowledge of a given topic. We can’t all be experts on everything, can we.

When someone asks you for advice, what your thoughts are, how you would handle a situation, you may offer the advice to them but the responsibility for their actions still resides with them. You lend a helping hand, support, but the ultimate decision of what a person does still lies with them. Whatever action or lack of action that someone takes in response to what one has offered as suggestions in support of them is given as options, nothing more or less. If they do what you suggest, that is fine, if not that is fine too, but they are the ones who make their own decisions, one cannot do this for them, nor should we try. This is ones ability to choose, their free will, and they must exercise this. Offering support to another may be as simple as allowing the person to express themselves and know that they are being heard, being non judgmental and remaining objective, one doesn’t need one feeding into their emotional pain. Where has the ” you poor dear” comments, someone sitting down and crying with us ever really gotten us? It doesn’t help anyway, does it. So one cannot go there, its not affording the one who you are wishing to support any good, its dis-empowering.

Isn’t it good to know that everything in life isn’t fixed, that you do have some input as to future events? Life does work in sequences of events, in cycles. Ever look back and think of a time in ones life that everything seemed to be going wrong, when you were caught in a negative cycle where one thing after another seemed to be a burden? perhaps you are in one of those cycles now. It’s hard at the time isn’t it to see that there is anything positive that can occur. Until that cycle ends and then its like what the heck was that all about, and you now have a life that is so unlike anything that you ever knew could exist. Those cycles are where tremendous lessons are learned and where growth is achieved. We have choice in our lives and the choices that we make have an effect on the timing of things. We may choose to stop at the grocery on the way home from work, so we arrive home later than usual, or we put the pedal to the metal and get home in record time. Other people who we interact with have the ability to choose to do things now, right away, which hastens the timing of events, or puts them off and procrastinates causing a delay in the timing of certain events. We see and do this all the time, so why should it come as a surprise to us that in soul connection situations where the person has run, both parties can choose to either hasten or delay the timing of events? Yet we want a time placed on something that hasn’t been decided yet.

Have you ever confided something in someone, told them ” not to tell anyone” and then find out that the whole bloody town knows your secret? Or you tell someone your innermost thoughts and fears, whether it be a partner or friend and then when angry with you they come after you, throw it up in your face? Now that is a lovely feeling isn’t it. If someone thinks enough of you, trusts you to relate personal confidences with you, it is important that one respects this confidence and maintains it. Perhaps it is in a weak moment or a strong one, doesn’t matter, but it is important to maintain a mutual respect by upholding the confidence that someone places in you. A person leaves themselves wide open per se when revealing their troubles, their feelings to another, this is an honor to be upheld and helps to ensure the growth of the parties involved. A person who has had their confidence, their trust abused will close down to being assisted by another in the future, possibly burying whatever it is that is concerning them in the process and we know that isn’t good, huh.

Doesn’t it all come down to respect? Respect for each other, regardless of race, color, religion or creed is not only a good code of practice, but a great code of life, one that we all can adhere to and apply in our lives.

The words soul connection, twin flame are nowadays buzz words tossed around to try to attach a spiritual meaning to a romantic relationship, if it has the spiritual aspect to it, it has to be divine love, yeah? The love of all time, the one that we are to search for and ride off into the sunset with and we will be eternally happy. So why then do they run? Could it be that perhaps there is more to this soul connection thing that we are not being told about in the media, the dating sites, and wherever else these labels are touted? What happened to this divine lover of ours, our soul mate, connection, twin, where the heck are they? did they go back to the dating sites looking for the next divine love or what? Whatcha think, is this the real deal, are you buying it? Or is there something more to it than this?

This is what happens when the spiritual meaning of what the term soul connection is to convey clashes with the pop spirituality meaning, the marketing of, misuse of a label which takes one off in a differing direction from what the real purpose of the words are for, to describe a process. Soul connection equals a process, not just a person. It is this process which one will find themselves struggling with, where the challenge is for one. One will experience this if it is a soul connection in the true spiritual sense of the words. Compatibility, love and a great relationship does not necessarily equal a soul connection in the way that many who are reading this have come to know it, yeah? Confusion, challenges, struggle along with pain are more of the order of the day, and night. Love that is profound, sure, but it may be hard to ride off into the sunset with someone who is no longer in ones physical sight and presence, yeah?

It is imperative that when one has been given this knowledge, has come to an understanding of the karmic lessons that the connection has been brought into ones life to highlight this so that one can learn, knows about the imbalance of energies, the unresolved karma, the energetic link that exists between the two partners, that one is careful as to not try to intertwine the idealized romanticized version of what a soul connection is to be and try to superimpose if you will the one onto the other. Sure there is a romantic component involved in this, it starts off this way for many of us doesn’t it. But there is so much more to this, and this is where so much confusion comes into play when one knows this yet tries to stay geared toward the romantic aspect alone. One is being moved to get moving, and it is important that we see this and begin to work through the process.

Yet what happens quite often is that the words soul connection, runner, instead of being words to describe a process, and to come to an understanding of this, will instead become an excuse. Take someone who runs for example, the ” runner” one may understand that they run based often times on fear, instead of this being part of the soul connection process or experience, becomes more of the ” ok, they are afraid have issues to work through and they will come back, so I will just wait till they do.” the ” stayer” becomes the “waiter” The understanding of what is occurring, the explanation of the process becomes a way to excuse it all away and one remains caught in the pain, in the process and not moving through and beyond it. The pain that one is feeling can be seen as stemming from the run caused by the soul connection partner, and not from the issues that the run has allowed to surface in oneself. The spiritual becomes lost on the understanding when we misconstrue the two.

Allow the term soul connection to move one forward, to gain insight and come to an understanding of the spiritual process at work in ones life and the life of the partner, not throw one into the endless waiting game and off the track of what one is to learn from this experience. Having gained the enlightenment that working through ones life lessons, resolution of karma brings, one will be able to experience unconditional love, your relationships will improve because you have done your work, you have improved in many ways, there is no more pain and with growth comes change, which includes a new you and all the possibilities that this brings.